Dear LMN

The girl is nuts! She’s very obsessive and violent. She acts as if she doesn’t have common sense. What’s wrong with her? Why is she attempting to kill that guy? Why is she so clingy and needy? Is she talking to herself? She belongs in a mental institution. Poor guy doesn’t know what’s coming!


These are my thoughts when I watch the psycho movies on Lifetime or Lifetime Movie Network. I’m amazed at how weird and insane the young woman is on the television screen. I’m disgusted by her actions, by the faces she makes and her thought process. I cringe looking at the horrible things she’s planning in order to destroy that innocent family or embarrass that sweet young man she’s dating.


I sit ANXIOUSLY waiting to find out what her problem is. I wonder if her mother abandoned her as a child or her dad moved on to another family and she’s acting this way out of hurt. I, like many others form my own opinion of why she acts the way she does. I can’t wait for the movie to get halfway through so they can reveal why this girl is a nut job. I hate to watch because my kind heart is sad looking at all of the horrible things she’s doing, but I need to find out the plot to this story.


There it is, finally. Oh, no wonder this girl is such a mess, she’s a FOSTER kid! She was abandoned by her drug abusing mother as a young girl and bounced from home to home until she turned 18. It turned her mind into mush. She went temporarily insane because no one ever loved or wanted her. She doesn’t know how to love and treat people kind because she’s jealous of all who had a better life then hers. She can’t handle life because her’s was so uncontrollable. She needs help, she needs to be locked away, she needs medication.


Well Lifetime, NOT all foster children are a mess. Not all kids who didn’t have a stable home, grow up to be UNSTABLE. Some of us can handle what’s happened to us. The child abuse, rape, abandonment, and mistreatment didn’t destroy all of our minds. Some of us went down the right path based on the horrific things we’d experienced growing up. A lot of us learned about life in the worse way and used our pain to make the best out of our futures.


All of us ward of the states are not dangerous, mentally insane, obsessive, or angry with the world. Majority of us can cope in the real world as adults. So why does so many of your movies depict us as monsters with no conscience? Why is there so many movies of psychopaths that just have to be based on a former foster home upbringing? I will urge you to search out a former foster kid and get their story of struggle to success and stop painting the picture that we struggle the rest of our lives.


I am a former foster child. I was adopted and abused for years until the adoption broke by court order. I was molested during my time in foster care, abused, talked about, picked on and bullied for years. I grew up in and out of group homes and foster homes for over 8 years and guess WHAT, your assumption of me, IS NOT ME! Married with 4 children I’ve never physically harmed. Abandoned multiple times by multiple mothers; never stalked a boyfriend. Sexually assaulted by many young boys,;didn’t turn into a pedophile. Was bounced from home to home with no stability; lived in the same state since aging out of the system, not trying to run away from my past or from where my problems occurred.


I used the pain from my past to help heal others that needed me. I didn’t turn violent, rack up mug shots, turn to prostitution, or loose my mind, instead I shared my story. I used my pain to motivate, to never give up on myself or count myself out because everyone else did. I built a platform to encourage and inspire similar individuals by publishing a book detailing my journey and my fight to stay afloat. I started a nonprofit organization dedicated to struggling young women that need guidance, love and a hearing ear of someone that can relate.


So instead of making others afraid of us, persuading others to reconsider taking in a GOOD child that needs a home, how about doing your research and finding good stories to formulate into a movie. Paint the picture of the 75% that do make it out of a dark place and create a better future. We are not ALL BAD. We are not ALL CRAZY. We all deserve a chance to be someones son or daughter. Stop scaring off potential homes for our youth in need PLEASE!




A former foster kid without mental problems!


About wisdomissophia

I am married mother of 5 beautiful children. I am a writer, blogger, creator and focused individual. I have been through quite a bit in my 34 years of living and I am not ashamed of or afraid to tell my story. My writing is a way of telling my truths and helping others at the same time. We all have a story to tell and if our story will encourage, uplift, change or transforms someone's life, we ALL need to tell our story. Our life and everything that is entails, is our story.
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